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Why I Won't Be Offended if You Throw Away My Wedding Invitations

How much did you spend on your wedding invitations? Do you regret spending that much? Are you planning a wedding on a budget? Which route did you go? Share your story with me!

 

If you're like me, you've probably had a moment like this.

You're standing in front of the refrigerator, staring holes through the beautifully adorned and decorated, perfectly coordinated wedding invitation. It's complete with the frilly bow and 24-karat gold-foil edges.

Regardless of who you are, one thing is obvious — the person who sent you the invitation probably had to take out a second mortgage on their home to pay for these fancy-schmancy little reminders, asking you to "share in the joy" of their day.

And after you think it, you stand there and you feel the horrible amount of guilt crashing down on you as you take it down and head toward the trash can.

But if you're like me, the guilt wins and you file it away as a "keepsake," because you couldn't bear to hurt the happy couple's feelings or their wallets by throwing it away.

Last weekend, my mother and I sat down and tackled one huge thing on my wedding planning to-do list — invitations.

I won't lie — I found invitations online, on Pinterest, on TheKnot.com. They closely resembled the ones I described above and god, did I want them! They were so cute and inspirational and were the perfect shade of pink and brown and...

But I digress.

According to the Bridal Association of America, most engaged couples spend an average of $660 on wedding invitations and reply cards for their big day. High-end invitations can cost up to $15 per invitation. This article also talks about do-it-yourself invitations and how you can find "high-quality, low-cost" invitations for about $1 per invitation.

Hahaha. Hear that? That's me laughing at you, Bridal Association of America.

Here — allow me to do you one better.

Since I'm planning my wedding on a budget, do-it-yourself invites were a no-brainer. So when you're looking for "affordable," what's the first place that pops into your mind?

Yup, that's right — we bought our invitations at Walmart. For 100 invitations and reply cards, we spent $15. Did we get our money's worth? Maybe, maybe not, but you look at the photo and I'll let you be the judge.

Printing the invitations using custom lettering from the Invitation Consultants website, we also didn't even go through one ink cartridge.

Postage is probably going to be the most expensive part of this process. I have 66 addresses on my guest list to which invitations will be sent. At 45 cents per stamp and two stamps per invitation (can't forget the reply cards), the total spent there comes to $59.40.

Grand total? In all, we'll have spent $74.40 on our wedding invitations.

And here we are. We've come full circle. At a whopping price of 23 cents per invitation (not including postage because postage is a given in my book), here's what I want all my guests to remember and what I kept in mind when deciding on my invites.

Imagine yourself back in front of that fridge. It's a lot less painful for your guests and a lot easier to swallow as a bride to throw a quarter in a garbage can or recycle bin than a 20-dollar bill.

So go ahead and toss my invites — you won't hurt my feelings, and your already cluttered desk will thank you.

How much did you spend on your wedding invitations? Do you regret spending that much? Which route did you go? Share your story with me!

Related Topics: Ankeny, Budget weddings, Inexpensive Wedding Invitations, and Wedding Planning 101

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Beth Dalbey

8:45 am on Wednesday, June 20, 2012

I'm sure the ghost of Emily Post is rattling some chains, but I like the approach you have taken in planning your wedding. Save the money for a beautiful life!

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Caron Osberg

9:23 am on Wednesday, June 20, 2012

I got a nice discount from a friend, so I didn't spend lots of money. I also have a hard time spending a ton of money on something disposable. My cousin got married last year and did her own invitations and they were so lovely I kept it on my desk at work for months just to look at it. It was done in a brown paper/lace/scrapbook sort of style. I don't know if they spent a lot of money, but it made me smile. Then yes, I threw it away.

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Megan VerHelst

10:24 am on Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Yes, Caron! It's one of those many cases where the old adage is true — "it's not what you know, it's WHO you know." :)

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Deb Belt

9:48 am on Wednesday, June 20, 2012

The only wedding invitation we have all these years after the big event is one that a friend preserved for us as a gift by decoupaging it onto a plaque of sorts. I'm sure any stray paper copies we had were lost to a wet garage or basement, or tossed during a move. Keep the invites simple.

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Alison Gowans

10:50 am on Wednesday, June 20, 2012

One of my friends did paperless digital invites for all her friends, via a wedding planning site, and she just sent paper invites to some family members who she knew rarely used the computer. Has anyone else out there tried this?

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Laurie Erikson

11:28 am on Wednesday, June 20, 2012

I went through Wedding Paper Divas - http://www.weddingpaperdivas.com/ for my wedding and bridal shower invitations and was actually able to get a 20% discount with my Costco membership. I didn't make out as well as $75!! but the cost was very reasonable and I was extremely happy with the quality. Also, I would not be offended at all if someone threw away my invitations. I've thrown them away in the past!

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Megan VerHelst

2:01 pm on Wednesday, June 20, 2012

That's great to hear, Laurie! I'm really happy with how mine turned out, too. :)

Fluffoo

2:20 pm on Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Nice to see somebody has her eye on the bigger picture. I found a thank you note with Winnie the Pooh and Piglet on it that said, "It's so much friendlier with two", wrote up an invite in Word and copied it on resume paper. My fiance thought I was nuts when I sat down to colour them in coloured pencils, then joined in. It was cheap, fun, and the people got there so everything turned out ok. Good luck to you!

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Megan VerHelst

2:28 pm on Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Thanks, Lisa! I LOVE that idea with the thank you cards. How much fun (not too mention, more personal) would that be?!

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