Dear Gabby,
Here at Patch, we are not fair-weather friends. We love you, in victory and in … what happened Monday and Tuesday.
We don’t care about your hair, except to say it’s lovely.
And we flat-out love your mom, Natalie Hawkins, for saying this:
“How ignorant is it of people to comment on her hair and she still has more competitions to go. Are you trying to ruin her self-confidence?," Hawkins told Fashionista.com. "She has to go out there and feel good about herself, and if she feels good about herself on that floor, who are you to criticize her? What have you done to help contribute to her dream, that you felt it necessary to put it out there so that she could see it?”
And you for saying this:
"Really?! I won two gold medals and made history and my hair is trending?”
Go, Gabby, Go. Go, Natalie, Go.
And speaking of your mom, we certainly don’t presume to judge her for filing bankruptcy. We’ve never tried to raise an Olympic athlete – at least most of us haven’t – so we’re not in a position to judge the financial impact on families like yours and Shawn Johnson’s.
What it does make us think about is the sacrifices parents make so their kids’ dreams can come true.
We think you are too nice to say anything, but someone needs to, figuratively speaking, hit those Fox News trolls over their pointy heads with a grain shovel for spewing that drivel about you and the other athletes not wrapping yourselves up in red, white and blue leotards.
Check this out.
Guest host Alisyn Camerota says:
“And some folks have noticed that American athletes’ uniforms don’t carry the Stars and Stripes look as much as they had in past years. The famous flag-style outfits worn in years past replaced with yellow shirts, gray tracksuits, pink leotards. So how do we show our patriotism at the games?”
Then talk-show host David Webb chimes in:
“What's wrong with showing pride? What we're seeing is this kind of soft anti-American feeling that Americans can't show our exceptionalism. Frankly, if they are offended about our showing our exceptionalism then they have that right and I don't care. And neither do most Americans.”
Maybe you could’ve put a stars-and-stripes doo-rag over your hair. That’ll set their tongues a-waggin’.
We are not that nice. So we’ll say it for you.
Please be still. You’re embarrassing yourselves, and America. This is your idea of “showing pride?” A country that eats its young?
We’ll say it again and again to drown out the haters who are too cynical to appreciate a story of a divorced mom who raised a gold-medal Olympic gymnast.
We’re proud of you. We’re flattered that you chose Liang Chow as your coach and West Des Moines as your home for two years. Thanks for letting us share your incredible accomplishments. You’re one of us, now, and we’re not letting you out of our hearts that easily.
Forever when we think of the face of pure joy, it will be yours at the London Olympics.
You should see all of us strutting around West Des Moines, bursting with pride about “our Gabby,” smiling with you as you made gold-medal history and hurting for you when you didn’t. And shushing anyone who wanted to talk about anything other than the sheer determination, mental and physical discipline it takes to do what you do so enchantingly well.
We’ve got your back, Gabby. Go have a wonderful, happy life full of new challenges and, hopefully, a chance to just be a kid. And don’t change a thing about your hair.
– Iowa Patch's editor, West Des Moines Editor
Kurt B.
7:55 am on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
It is hard to imagine some people have spent this much time talking about Gabby's hair !!
Beth Dalbey
8:01 am on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
So true, Kurt. There are no words to describe how happy I am that no one was pointing a camera at my hair throughout this stinker of a summer.
Louis F Piatt
9:09 am on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
I agree wholeheartedly with the foregoing editorial. Shame of the detractors....none of which has an ounce of courage or good will.....Fox News included and the Des Moines Register....
Troy Murphy
9:17 am on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Ok can somebody explain in more detail the controversy. I happen to agree the uniforms should be more in your face American but that is an Olympic committee decision isn't it? As far as commenting on hair that is just stupid and I am sure ignored by almost everyone but now I am curious what exactly was said about hair?
Deb Belt
10:22 am on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Troy: According to ESPN.W, folks on social media have been trashing Gabby's hairstyle. From the ESPN story: Instead of basking in the fact that Douglas became the first African-American woman to win the individual all-around competition, people on social media were making jokes about how this 16-year-old phenom was in need of a perm or, at the very least, a more kempt ponytail.
Jack F
12:26 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Deb- why is it so important to identify her as African-American? Didnt she grow up in America? Didnt her parents grow up in America? Didnt she represent America in the olympics? Why are we saying she is African? There is no relevence to adding things to a 16 year olds handle.
Alison Gowans
10:47 am on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
People are too small minded. How Gabby, or anyone, for that matter, does their hair is no one's business but their own.
Courtenay Baker-Olinger
11:04 am on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Complaining about Gabby's hair? Why don't they complain about the swimmers' hair -- it's all wet and totally unkempt in those medal ceremonies... No one gets after the bicyclists for having helmet head. Athletes really shouldn't have to worry about looking like models when they're competing. I'm proud of all of them, regardless of what their hair or uniforms look like.
Dana Boone
12:46 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
It's important to identify her as an African-American, first because that's what she is and secondly because her presence at the top of gymnastics gives hope to other black girls who often see negative media portrayal of themselves and her presence, as a black girl in the sport, encourages others, but likely especially other black girls to participate.
Great letter, Beth. Worrying about this beautiful, trailblazing young ladys's hair during the Olympics disgusts me and so many others.
Beth Dalbey
1:35 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Women's gymnastics has been a predominantly white sport. As Dana says, it's great to see that barrier broken by Gabby, who is a great role model both as an American and as an African-American.
Jack F
2:43 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
I dont get it. So if a white male wins the 100 M dash we are should then identify him as a White American winning the 100M dash????
Kurt B.
3:09 pm on Thursday, August 9, 2012
In this case, I would side with Jack F point of view.
Gabby is an American and we are proud of her for what she has done. We would be just as proud of her if she was white, so why not just call her American ? The sooner we all start thinking of each other as Americans and not as something-Americans, the sooner we will be all pulling in the same direction.
F Y I - I was born outside the USA and I don't consider myself anything but American. I graduated from H.S. in America , served in the army in America, went to college in America, worked all my years in America, paid taxes in America, married in America, had kids in America. If I could do what Gabby did, I would still consider myself American.
Erik Gable
4:30 pm on Thursday, August 9, 2012
Jack, if he's the first one who ever did it ... sure, why not?
michaelant
1:41 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
What's her hair *supposed* to look like? She's flying through the air fer chrissakes. And the Fox News anchors can go jump in a lake. Sniping from the sidelines while athletes show their "exceptionalism" by winning. Sheesh.
deatea
6:30 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
I am here in Virginia and I have absolutely fallen in love with Iowa(ins) and Gabby's host family. I know it must have been hard for Gabby's Mom to let her go but in doing so she gave America an opportunity to see unconditional love and the Love of Christ in its' finest form. What an amazing story This Gabrielle Douglas story is and what amazing people Iowa(ians) are. God Bless you all and this article further lifted my heart. Praise Jesus.
Troy Murphy
6:33 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Btw. As far as I can tell fox news never said anything about her hair. Shepherd Smith said he thought their uniforms could be more patriotic, in which i think he was referrring to the us olympic committees choice, but the hair thing was strictly a Facebook twitter phenomenon until espn picked it up.
Troy Murphy
6:41 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Dana,
Do you know that for a fact, could she be Jamaican American, or Haitian American or maybe her family came from a European country. Part of the problem with race relations in the us is this insistence on defining people by their differences. I don't see many Asians define themselves generally as Chinese Americans or Korean Americans but rather as Americans. As far as other black girls do you really believe that they don't know what her heritage is without pointing it out every time her name is mentioned? Identifying yourself as a hyphenated American seems to purposely set oneself apart and different than just an American.
Kurt B.
3:12 pm on Thursday, August 9, 2012
Troy gets a huge +1 for this one.
Nik
5:19 pm on Saturday, August 11, 2012
I agree Troy... Gabby is strickly an American role model and it should not matter what skin color she has!!!! The only time I would see someone of color as different is when they define it themselves... why is it a triumph that she is the first African American girl to when the gold .. it should be a triumph that she is at the Olympics in the first place because all olympians are heros...
Nik
5:30 pm on Saturday, August 11, 2012
I mispoke! Our service men and women are heros but all olympians are role models
Dana Boone
8:23 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Thankfully, Troy, no one has the power to name us anymore. We have the power to decide what we are to be called. We don't have to, as black people or African-Americans, be likened to any other group present in America, like you mentioned, because our history in this country is vastly different than theirs. White people can no longer tell us what to call ourselves or define who we are. So if we say we are black or African-American, I guess you will have to take our word for it.
Gabby Douglas hails from Virginia. She goes down in history as a highly celebrated African-American gymnastic legend because she is the first African-American to win an all-around title. That's that history will say. You don't have the power to reframe her identity. Just like our President self-identifies as a black man, no one else has the power to change that. The real question is why does us also holding Gabby Douglas up as a black hero make anyone uncomfortable? That does not take away anyone else’s right to cheer for her.
I am an American. But, I'm an African-American woman who is very aware of and proud of my family and my ancestors. Our history as blacks in America is filled with a special brand of tragedy and triumph. But, I find it puzzling that people somehow want us to always downplay our heritage or downplay our historical ties. No one else is asked to or expected to do that.
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michaelant
1:56 pm on Thursday, August 9, 2012
Very well said, Dana.
Dana Boone
8:24 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
As blacks, we have had many barriers to achievement in this country due to a myriad of factors. When someone as awesome as Gabby Douglas breaks through those barriers, it's inspiring to all of us who can see another roadblock fall. Somewhere, Troy, there are young blacks girls who watched the Olympics and finally saw someone who looked like them on that that beam, floor and podium - and they saw her win and bedazzle - and it gave life to their own dreams. The door has opened a little wider for them in gymnastics and the world because of Gabby Douglas. Watch and see.
Beth Dalbey
8:27 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Dana, eloquently stated. Thank you.
Lucille
9:29 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Dana, thank you for putting my thoughts and feelings into words.
Troy Murphy
9:48 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Dana,
I am sorry you feel that way. White people, as you like to define us, have as myriad a background as blacks in this country. I suppose using your nomenclature I am a European-American or more specifically an Irish-American. Neither I nor my ancestors have ever tried to define who or what you are but my point still stands by defining yourselves by your differences you just perpetuate those differences. It is not the fact she identifies as black or the president identifies as black, that is a racial fact it is the African-American I take issue with. I celebrate the fact that she is a black woman who has succeeded, it does not make me uncomfortable. I am proud that our country did not let the fact that Obama is black keep him from being elected. It shows that Americans have risen past the race relations of the past. No one else is expected or asked to downplay there heritage because there heritage is not brought up by them whether that be Korean, Chinese, Peurto Rican, Mexican, Columbian, etc. But hey continue to identify however you will, I and everyone else who watched her outstanding performance was proud she was an American who happens to be black. I just hope that someday you are comfortable not having to define yourself as a hyphenated American.
Dana Boone
10:12 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Sigh. We don't just "happen to be black." Our blackness is not some ink that we can wash off, it's not something we hang up and leave at the door when we go home. It's not something that America can erase in her "melting pot" and centuries of trying. No matter how much better it would make you feel if it were so.
Troy Murphy
10:34 pm on Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Then Dana there is no hope if you feel that way. I can no more change the history of your race than I can change the history of the Irish. With that attitude I guess blacks will always feel different than any other race in the U.S. but that is your burden because all I can do is treat all people equally. As long as I treat everyone the same I have no guilt or obligation to do more. I hope someday you no longer feel that way.
Dana Boone
12:06 am on Thursday, August 9, 2012
I appreciate this conversation we are having. I’m not sure how progress can be made either until people stop trying to stipulate who we are as African-Americans. I know I have never tried to "name" another group of people and debate what they should be allowed to call themselves. I haven't had that luxury.
Jack F
6:47 am on Thursday, August 9, 2012
Dana - I am saddened that you feel that somehow your ethnicity is a burden. That is a radical view of today's society trying to punish our younger generations for the sins of the past. My children grew up in an America with a black president and hundreds of black role models. Don't get me wrong, as president I think he is doing a terrible disservice by continuing class warfare and at times race warfare, but no-one can claim their are not enough black role models. Gabby is just one more among many. I just hope she does not become an activist and buy into the idea that somehow she worked harder than all the other Olympians just because she was black. Btw... We had no white representation in the women's 200 M dash last night, but no one said anything because "who cares". My wife did remind me that for the first time, women US athletes will get more medals than males. Once again I asked "who cares" Thhey never mentioned during the other Olympics that men out performed women????
Dana Boone
6:58 am on Thursday, August 9, 2012
You couldn't be more wrong in your perceptions. But I'll say it yet again: I am proud to be an African-American and to consider Gabby Douglas as a black role model. I'm burdened that you believe I ever said otherwise.
Erik Gable
4:23 pm on Thursday, August 9, 2012
How dare you formulate your own identity? You should let ME decide what your identity is!
David Leonard
8:39 am on Thursday, August 9, 2012
No doubt President Obama designed the Americans' Olympic uniforms in his spare time just so he could dis American exceptionalism.
Troy Murphy
10:51 am on Thursday, August 9, 2012
Huh? What does Obama have to do with anything? I am pretty sure the uniforms were probably designed by some committee and approved by the same committee. While I agree Obama is an apologist that has nothing to do with this conversation, besides he is campaigning all the time not just in his spare time and therefore wouldn't have time to be a fashion designer.
Jack F
7:46 pm on Thursday, August 9, 2012
I am sure that darn American-American Olympic committee were a bunch of multi-culturalist........